The top ten myths about adoption ; Adoption at a glance : the decision tree -- Thinking about adopting? Can I do this? : making the decision to adopt ; Where is my child? : choices in adoption, domestic and international ; Can I choose a child? : how to think about race, age, and gender -- Working on an adoption. Where do I start? : choosing your adoption team ; How much will this cost? : real expenses and real solutions ; Can I adopt a healthy child? : understanding the medical issues ; Why is there so much paperwork? : preparing your home study and dossier ; Why does this have to take so long? : preparing for your new child ; Is this my child? : choosing to accept a child referral or birth-mother match ; What if it doesn't work out? : how to make sure your adoption succeeds -- Parenting your adopted child. Will we fall in love? : bonding and attachment for you and your child ; Is there a greeting card for this? : your child's birth mother and other new relatives ; What do I tell my child? : creating the adoption story ; Who needs to know? : talking to teachers, doctors-- and strangers ; Is this normal? : speech delays, learning disabilities, and other complications ; Will we live happily ever after? : adoptees on adoption -- Adoption terms -- What kind of adoption is right for you? : the decision matrix.